emotional labor – Read Poems aka Dinosaurs

Chapter 37 – Life Taught Me Restraint

Posted 1 month ago under DINOSAUR, Philosophy, Psychology Tagged: Achievement, Agency, agency-withholding, articulation, attachment, avoidance, boundaries, cognitive dissonance, communication, confession, consent, consequence, desire, emotional labor, Ethics, Existentialism, failure modes, honesty, identity, Intimacy., Isolation, learning, loneliness, loss, masculinity, Mastery, memory, moral discipline, optimization, overfitting, permission, phenomenology, power dynamics, procedural grief, Reciprocity, recognition, regret, repression, restraint, self-accountability, self-authorship, self-erasure, silence, social norms, speech acts, time, translation, unmet-need, unspoken, vulnerability.

Chapter 37 - Life Taught Me Restraint Life Taught Me Restraint - Part I Restraint became my native tongue;
desire learned to speak only in silence.
I hid the wanting so well
even I forgot its shape. Read more from here...

442 views

Ronie Dinosaur Chapter 55 – Feeding and Nourishment

Posted 2 months ago under DINOSAUR, Philosophy, Psychology Tagged: abandonment, Absence, aftermath, Agency, boundaries, care, coming-of-age, consent, consumption, desire, dignity, emotional ethics, emotional labor, emotional restraint, first-love, freedom, friendship, Heartbreak, hunger, imbalance, inner conflict, Intention, Intimacy., invitation, longing, loss, Maturity, memory, metaphor, misalignment, moral clarity, naming, nourishment, Poetic prose, power dynamics, principle, proximity, Psychological realism, Refusal, regret, relational failure, restraint vs rejection, silence, slow love, tenderness, unresolved questions, unspoken love, vulnerability, youth.

Feeding and Nourishment  Verse 1 You waited hours just for me,
Pulled me close upon your knee.
Said, “Here you are, come on,”
Fed me slow with your own hands. Read more from here...

126 views

Psychopath

Posted 2 months ago under DINOSAUR, Philosophy, Psychology Tagged: accountability failure, ambiguity as control, asymmetrical investment, attention without commitment, boundary enforcement, boundary violation, closeness without clarity, college relationships, consent vs clarity, delayed closure, delayed cruelty, emotional ambiguity, emotional harm, emotional labor, emotional misuse, emotional negligence, emotional withdrawal, friendship betrayal, friendship boundaries, human attachment, intimacy imbalance, moral blindness, moral deflection, moral inversion, narrative control, narrative rewriting, nonverbal cruelty, passive manipulation, power asymmetry, psychological injury, Psychological realism, rejection dynamics, rejection trauma, relational collapse, relational ethics, responsibility avoidance, silent rejection, silent violence, social dynamics, social hierarchy, social power, symbolic rejection, trust erosion, unacknowledged power, unrequited-love, unspoken hierarchies.

Psychopath Here you are,
enjoying life,
getting close-personal, private-
with people he believed were only casual friends,
lesser ones. Read more from here...

81 views

Anyways

Posted 2 months ago under DINOSAUR, Mythopoetic, Philosophy, Psychology Tagged: awareness, body and mind, character in action, Choice, Courage, deliberate choice, divine vs human, emotional labor, endurance, ethical action, existential courage, existential reflection, existential terror, female ambiguity, godlike endurance, grief, Heartbreak, heartbreak resilience, human condition, human fragility, human struggle, Introspection, introspective epic, introspective prose, longing, Love and Loss, masculine restraint, meditative poetry, moral accounting, moral courage, moral responsibility, mortality, mythic metaphor, peacock metaphor, personal narrative, philosophical poetry, Psychological realism, reflective poetry, relational ethics, restraint, Ronie Dinosaur, self-discipline, Self-mastery, stoicism, substance abuse, suffering, swan metaphor, temporal awareness, unrequited-love, walking anyway.

Anyways A god endured
thousands of years in exile,
drowned in grief-yet, sweetheart,
he feared neither death
nor darkness Read more from here...

92 views

Sorcery

Posted 2 months ago under DINOSAUR, Mythopoetic, Philosophy, Psychology Tagged: Agency, ambiguity, autobiographical fiction, body language, boundaries, character, confession, consent, desire, dignity, discipline, disillusionment, emotional labor, first-order truth, Heartbreak, Intimacy., Kaliyug myth, longing, loss, masculinity, modern alienation, Modernity, moral economy, mythic voice, peacock metaphor, power dynamics, Pride, Psychological realism, Purity, Refusal, rejection, restraint, restraint ethics, romantic idealism, Ronie Dinosaur, self-respect, Selfhood, solitude, Sorcery, stoicism, swan metaphor, symbolism, transformation, unrequited-love, vulnerability, will.

Sorcery I came back having lost-so who has ever come back having won?
I lived by my own will; this is not called losing.
I became Ronie to the whole world-from five-year-old children to everyone at the table, at the door, or on the floor.
In return for the love I gave the boy within me, I could not gather love from a girl for myself.
The generosity of my spirit, my character in action, my golden intent-and yet my desire proved fruitless. Read more from here...

85 views

Why Not Me?

Posted 2 months ago under DINOSAUR, Philosophy, Psychology Tagged: abandonment trauma, Agency, attachment, Betrayal, boundaries, consent, desire vs respect, dignity, emotional abandonment, emotional labor, endurance, existential questioning, fairness, friendship breakup, Heartbreak, human condition, incompatibility, inner conflict, Isolation, loneliness, longing, loss, male vulnerability, melancholia, memory, misalignment, moral conflict, moral solitude, patience, philosophical poetry, reflective verse, refusal-to-beg, rejection, restraint, restraint over desire, self-respect, self-withdrawal, shame, silence, slow burn, solitude, time, unanswered questions, unrequited-love, why not me, withdrawal.

Title - Why Not Me? With the heart that called you friend,
I asked you to be my girl.
You said no-straight, no pretend.
What’s a guy supposed to do in this world?
Should I stand there, beg, and plead, Read more from here...

139 views

Rational But Emptier

Posted 3 months ago under DINOSAUR, Philosophy, Psychology Tagged: Agency, attachment injury, Betrayal, bitterness, cognitive dissonance, disillusionment, emotional economics, emotional labor, Heartbreak, human behavior, intimacy politics, loneliness, manipulation, modern relationships, moral conflict, post-romanticism, power dynamics, psychological observation, rationalization, romantic realism, self-preservation, sincerity vs strategy, social incentives, systemic critique, vulnerability.

Title — Rational But Emptier To love a woman,
she must be offered a reason.
Give her information,
make an impact, remove hesitation.
Don’t bluff-stay tough; Read more from here...

101 views

Ronie Dinosaur Chapter 70 – The Door

Posted 3 months ago under DINOSAUR, Philosophy, Psychology Tagged: abandonment, absence as erasure, attachment fracture, cultural metaphor, dignity through withdrawal, door, door metaphor, emotional labor, emotional neglect, excuses, existential separation, eyes, first-order truth, friendship betrayal, grief without closure, invisibility, lived disappointment, loss of witness, moral, moral projection, politics, quiet departure, relational asymmetry, relational realism, Ronie Dinosaur, Ronie Dinosaur Chapter 70, self-erasure, social replacement, The Door, unreciprocated bonds, unshared memory, walking away.

Ronie Dinosaur Chapter 70 - The Door Those who didn’t value the salt in my tears,
a little smile on my face would have killed their ghosts out of fear.
Maybe I was just standing at the door.
The door was open-
and I had to understand what for: Read more from here...

80 views